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andrewducker ([personal profile] andrewducker) wrote2017-12-10 12:00 pm
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[personal profile] njj4 2017-12-12 10:27 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks. I find it interesting that none of the friends I've kept in touch with have sent their children there. One remarked "he's bright enough to pass the exam, but I want him to be a happy person". It's almost certainly different now - apparently they have a counselling and welfare team these days (rather than a general attitude of "pull yourself together old chap, and try not to let the side down"), plus they went co-educational shortly after the 500th anniversary.

As to how many people that kind of environment is actively good for (rather than merely not doing too much harm, which was probably the case for most of my classmates), I don't know. There's certainly a particular sort of person who actively thrives in that culture, and the current UK government is largely composed of such people. But I'm not sure I'd necessarily say it's been good for them as people. Who knows what worthwhile stuff Boris Johnson might now be doing if he hadn't gone to Eton.

At the time I was rather disappointed at just missing the grades to get into Cambridge, but in retrospect it would almost certainly have been a disaster - for me it would have been essentially another few years of a similar environment. A contemporary who made it into Oxford had his studies interrupted for a year by a nervous breakdown (the warning signs for which had been evident years earlier). I didn't like him and he didn't like me, but I sympathised nonetheless. Meanwhile, at York, I had a moderately wobbly second year but ultimately made it through relatively unscathed.