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andrewducker ([personal profile] andrewducker) wrote2012-03-11 11:00 am

[identity profile] channelpenguin.livejournal.com 2012-03-11 04:07 pm (UTC)(link)
Street harrassment: bloody hell, no-one shd have to live like that. I feel so, so lucky, never really had any hassle (touch wood). How can people(men) be *like* that??? I mean in themselves - just how? I know all the stock answers but it's still near-impossible to imagine either such a total lack of empathy or, if it's not immunity to women's/other people's feelings, such a desire to explicitly cause pain/fear/humiliation.

[identity profile] andrewhickey.livejournal.com 2012-03-11 06:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Unfortunately many, many men are exactly like that. Without wanting to in any way compare what I go through to what those women go through, I know just from looking unusual (long beard and overweight) that a large percentage of young men, especially in groups (and especially those wearing football clothing) want nothing more than to cause others pain and distress.
A LOT of people enjoy causing pain to others, and it's just a matter of finding a social situation where they're allowed to. And sadly that kind of behaviour is more or less accepted, or people just don't believe it happens.

[identity profile] undeadbydawn.livejournal.com 2012-03-11 06:32 pm (UTC)(link)
my ex-wife comments near every time I go anywhere with her that people act *completely differently* when I'm there. It's like the arsehole switch is magically flipped.

Now, I'm aware that I can be very intimidating [it's not in any way deliberate, just buckets of experience], but I cannot help but wonder if people just behave better when there's a non-idiotic man around. It's a sobering thought.