my daughter was bullied horrifically for the best part of the last academic year.
I got wind of just how bad it was after her mum had insisted she was handling it, then I read the ongoing reports in Daughter's school diary.
among the weird responses were 'we can't watch your daughter 100% of the time, the bullies actions are unpredictable, and we can't keep her locked away! Lets have a meeting so we can reassure your daughter everything is OK'
I wrote a letter. One letter. I never got a reply.
the letter said 1. given that my daugheter is not attacking anyone, she does not need watching. The bully does. 2. The bully is entirely predictable. If she has a chance to attack my daughter, she will. 3. We are not asking you to 'lock her away', though that is exactly what you ask of my daughter. Just keep her away from my daughter. 4. there is no point i having 'a meeting' because we do not believe it will 'be ok' and it will not stop her from being attacked 5. Given that your anti-bullying policy has clearly, completely failed, I would like a copy of it and further information regarding your intentions to prevent these incidents from recurring.
two days later, mother received a bizarre phone call from the headmistress saying how totally impossible this all was. Mother asked for the response in writing - which never arrived.
There has never been another incident of bullying.
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I got wind of just how bad it was after her mum had insisted she was handling it, then I read the ongoing reports in Daughter's school diary.
among the weird responses were 'we can't watch your daughter 100% of the time, the bullies actions are unpredictable, and we can't keep her locked away! Lets have a meeting so we can reassure your daughter everything is OK'
I wrote a letter. One letter. I never got a reply.
the letter said
1. given that my daugheter is not attacking anyone, she does not need watching. The bully does.
2. The bully is entirely predictable. If she has a chance to attack my daughter, she will.
3. We are not asking you to 'lock her away', though that is exactly what you ask of my daughter. Just keep her away from my daughter.
4. there is no point i having 'a meeting' because we do not believe it will 'be ok' and it will not stop her from being attacked
5. Given that your anti-bullying policy has clearly, completely failed, I would like a copy of it and further information regarding your intentions to prevent these incidents from recurring.
two days later, mother received a bizarre phone call from the headmistress saying how totally impossible this all was. Mother asked for the response in writing - which never arrived.
There has never been another incident of bullying.
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(Dealing with people that deliberately incompetent is just _hard_)