But that's a terrible sentiment! I'm not espousing lying to kids, but it's not lying to tell your daughter she's beautiful and that other people will think that as well, no matter what she looks like. You don't know what this tanned football player fancies - if she's going to get her heart broken she might as well understand that it's because maybe she's not his particular brand of beautiful, not because she's just plain ugly and won't have a chance with anybody.
Well I certainly wouldn't say she doesn't stand a chance with anybody!
But it's about probabilities. Take just one simple component, like height. If you're a really tall woman or a really short man you're not going to have as big a pool of people who might find you beautiful. I doubt anything is going to change that.
You may not be able to widen the pool to include as many people as are going to buy into the lowest common denominator ideals of beauty, but there is a hell of a lot that can change the size of that pool by a huge amount. See my comment re: 'ugly' guys getting 'hot' chicks when it doesn't ever really work the other way round.
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But it's about probabilities. Take just one simple component, like height. If you're a really tall woman or a really short man you're not going to have as big a pool of people who might find you beautiful. I doubt anything is going to change that.
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