> if you've been told all your life that you have to conform to certain rules, and you see someone you think is breaking them, you lash out at that person
That's just our hardwiring as social animals -- behaviour is to be conformed to. Triumph and tragedy all in one.
> I've always wondered what the boys were told when the girls were told about tampons
Ha! I can't remember, but whatever we were given to do we were mostly speculating on what on earth the girls would be told. I really think it might be better to tell everybody at once: this happens to girls, deal with it. I'm sure the thinking is that the girls would be embarrassed, but then taking them to one side to do it is surely only demonstrating that there's something to be embarrassed about in the first place.
And I'm sure it's already long grained in by then.
That's just our hardwiring as social animals I don't understand the word 'just' in this statement. Of course it's part of our existence as a social animal.
Well I guess when I read a statement like yours I automatically (and incorrectly it seems) assume that the behaviour is being ascribed to jealousy, envy, anger, etc: that it's on a personal level and there's a larger degree of volition than I suspect there really is.
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andrewducker) wrote2010-06-22 12:01 pm
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> if you've been told all your life that you have to conform to certain rules, and you see someone you think is breaking them, you lash out at that person
That's just our hardwiring as social animals -- behaviour is to be conformed to. Triumph and tragedy all in one.
> I've always wondered what the boys were told when the girls were told about tampons
Ha! I can't remember, but whatever we were given to do we were mostly speculating on what on earth the girls would be told. I really think it might be better to tell everybody at once: this happens to girls, deal with it. I'm sure the thinking is that the girls would be embarrassed, but then taking them to one side to do it is surely only demonstrating that there's something to be embarrassed about in the first place.
And I'm sure it's already long grained in by then.
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I don't understand the word 'just' in this statement. Of course it's part of our existence as a social animal.
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