Your third question fails to capture my commonplace-and-not-terribly-special case: I see my mother five or six times a year, I have no contact at all with my father.
*nods* I avoid my mother a bit, and see not very much of her (especially when hyou consider that she lives 10mins walk away from here). I live with my father!
Also there's no appropriate answer for "I see parents with the frequency that one of these answers might suggest, but with a reluctance and distaste which makes expressions such as "often as possible", "I try", and "I make an effort" completely wrong"
I had to reply that I don't see my parents as I don't get on with them, but in point of fact they rejected me and don't therefore want anything to do with me :o(
I answered for my adoptive parents; my biological parents weren't married at the time, and went their separate ways (both now happily married to other people, and with kids on each side; my family tree is more of a family forest :-) ). My answer to the Contact question applies for the bio-parents too ...
I mean, I don't go especially out of my way or make special effort to see/talk to my parents bu that's because they don't live very far away and it's not any great effort to go and see them, and althoug I never phone up for a chat, I do often phone for sorting things out or advice.
And they got married 6 months after they first met (I don't think my mam was pregnant at the time..) nd my dad still says "she's not just my wife, she's my best friend" awww. With such a wonderful example of love, commitment and long term relationships, it makes you wonder how me and my brother hahve ended up being so spectacularly crap at maintaining relatiionships with women..
I was able to answer the last only because the parent with whom I wanted no contact died a few years ago. I picked the second choice, which seems closest to "we talk every week or two, IM in between times, and see each other when my mother comes to visit the U.S." If it were "as often as possible" I would call Mom on the weekends when I'm away visiting my partners, and do some of the traveling myself.
apart from that quite major poll fail, just wondered is there any reason why the first question says 'married' and the second one talks about 'long term relationships' instead? I actually clicked 'married' in the first one without thinking, as my parents are soooo married that I sort of thought they must have been forever, but actually they only legally got married when I was about 6 and my brother was 2.
Also I'm like Sarah with the last question - I've put 'as often as possible' but what I mean is more 'I really like and have a great relationship with both of them and they make a point of ringing me once a week, although I very often miss this as am out on Friday nights, but I'm always in touch with them via email and stuff'. 'As often as possible' just sounds slightly mad to me, surely that would be like ALL THE TIME and I'd have to live in the same city, or indeed country, as them?
I have to point out another flaw in the voting...second question to be exact.
I voted "Seperated", because that is - strictly speaking - the closest option to the situation...seeing as my Dad died when I was 18 (about two weeks after I started at Stirling fwiw. I like to think he held on to see me go to uni.)
I have a problem with question two: my parents were only together two and a half years. Not at all sure that counts as a "long term relationship", and they were separated by the time I was six months old.
I always get a kick out of these polls and the way people analyze them in the comments.
In my own case, both parents are dead: Father since 1973 (I was 16) and mother since 2001. But just today or yesterday I wished I could call her to talk a little bit.
The high numbers in the answers to the first two questions tends to support my notion that "half of marriages end in divorce" doesn't mean that half of people who get married are likely to get divorced. Rather, there's a smallish percentage of people who are likely to get divorced (some of them more than once) who affect the average more than they affect the typical life story.
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I definitely missed that option!
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And they got married 6 months after they first met (I don't think my mam was pregnant at the time..) nd my dad still says "she's not just my wife, she's my best friend" awww. With such a wonderful example of love, commitment and long term relationships, it makes you wonder how me and my brother hahve ended up being so spectacularly crap at maintaining relatiionships with women..
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I actually clicked 'married' in the first one without thinking, as my parents are soooo married that I sort of thought they must have been forever, but actually they only legally got married when I was about 6 and my brother was 2.
Also I'm like Sarah with the last question - I've put 'as often as possible' but what I mean is more 'I really like and have a great relationship with both of them and they make a point of ringing me once a week, although I very often miss this as am out on Friday nights, but I'm always in touch with them via email and stuff'.
'As often as possible' just sounds slightly mad to me, surely that would be like ALL THE TIME and I'd have to live in the same city, or indeed country, as them?
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I voted "Seperated", because that is - strictly speaking - the closest option to the situation...seeing as my Dad died when I was 18 (about two weeks after I started at Stirling fwiw. I like to think he held on to see me go to uni.)
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In my own case, both parents are dead: Father since 1973 (I was 16) and mother since 2001. But just today or yesterday I wished I could call her to talk a little bit.
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